Hey peeps! So today I wanted to focus on my thoughts about the idea of physical touch and the role it plays in dating and courtship. I think it is interesting the view that the world has on this specific topic and the opinions on what makes a relationship and frankly how fast couples become attached through physical touch.There is definitely need to find a balance in everything.
I think very often physical tough becomes so much a part of a relationship that people forget why they are even dating. There are chemicals released when a person kisses another person that makes you like them more. Meaning when physical touch becomes part of a relationship it clouds your judgement and makes it harder to see the relationship as it actually is. As we step back and take genuine time getting to know someone its a lot easier to know how you feel about each other.
People tend to jump into relationships quite quickly and a lot of the time even into marriage before they really get to know each other. I truly think that this tends to make it more difficult later on and as life gets harder for that relationship. I love the attachment relationship model which is basically a model that explains you should never trust a person more than you know them and you should never rely on a person more than you trust them, You should never rely on a person more than you are ready to commit to them and you should never touch a person more than you are ready to commit to them. This model is a good basis to go off of to establish a healthy and well balanced relationship that will make it easier to transition into either a more serious relationship or a breakup if that is what both people feel is better.
It's important to make physical contact a part of your relationship but certainly not the only part of your relationship. Everything has a time and a place and it is important to decide together what you feel is appropriate and communicate with each other. Learning to communicate and talk with each other while you are dating will help in your relationship for the rest of the time you are dating and into a possible marriage. I love the comparison of not sliding into a relationship but falling into a relationship. As you start seeing someone or spending lots of time with them its easy to just slide into a relationship. All the sudden you are in a serious relationship and you weren't even sure that's what you wanted, but if you take time to discuss with each other and decide what you want to be and how you both feel it will be better in the long run.
Also another big part of relationships is realizing that the way you date will most likely be the way things are when you are married. If you simply just always hangout then you can't except to go on dates after marriage. Its a matter of being intentional with everything you do. As you work to establish clear boundaries and work together to commit you will be able to have a healthy and happy relationship. Relationships are hard and they take lots of work and consistent effort but as you put in the effort and the time it will be so worth it. Working on your relationship while you are dating will be a worthwhile investment for your future and can save a lot of heartache and sorrow that could be waiting down the road.
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